M and I are in the middle of packing, the movers come Friday around 1 pm. I work Thursday night, so Friday is going to be a long day.
We went to Lowes, and walked around. I loved looking at kitchen appliances. It is so comfortable knowing someday we will be making that purchase. Even better some day the purchase will be in our OWN house with kids running around in it.
We looked at plants and fences to put up so the plants can grow up.
Saturday we ran errands all day, just before we went to Olive Garden for a late lunch there was tears in the parking lot. This time not from me, but from my sweet wife. This move is hard on us in different ways. She is use to having minimal help to move, and due to our location (upstairs apartment) and our health issues going on. We need more heal from the movers than she would like. It may cost more, but it will be worth the health and safety of my wife. When she is in pain, fights are more easily started. So in a way (ok a big way) it is for my sanity also.
I love what I do as a career but not really were I work. Been there almost a year, and I am still not full time. I am getting enough hours, but no insurance. Something happened last week that I was not to happy with at all. I did start to search for another place, but I can’t start another job in the middle of a move. Place up North and in Tucson are hiring, but I would have to see how much it would be to break my lease. M would follow me, she would like a change for once.
I would be further away from my mom, but she never comes to visit it us as it is. It usually a lunch visit every few weeks if possible. She is to busy spending time with my sister, as usual. My mom is very finically supportive, but not very emotionally supportive. M has become the only person I have come to trust.
I still wonder about my father, but in the sense of wanting to speak to him. Just wonder if he even cares that I want nothing to do with him. I am guessing not, since he is not that kind of a father.
People last week were posting on FB about sibling week. WTF would I post?
“This is my sister S she is an emotional abusive bitch that almost drove me to kill myself.”
In two days it will be the 2 year mark when I took off to Ohio with 9 hour notice. I told my family like 3 hours before I left. Ironically my father funded the ticket. I consider Ohio a big jumping off point in my life. I got out of the house that almost killed me, enough to keep me alive. It was also just before M messaged me and that changed my whole life. B was who invited me up there, we had talked online for awhile prior. I literally just took off. There was fights, but I would not of traded it. I am alive because I ran off. I ran off for the first time in my life.
I don’t have to run no more, I don’t need. I don’t have abusers around me anymore.
I saw a story about Hell Angels who and protect abused kids. They will stand out side of their house, or walk them to school and wait there so they feel safe. Even walk into court and sit in the front row. One story was about a 10 year old boy testifying against his abusive father. The prosecutor ask him why had not testified before, the boy answered that he was scared. The prosecutor asked the boy what had changed. The boy replied as he pointed to the front row of seats
“My friend is scarier than him.”